When Dads Struggle Too: Postpartum Depression in Fathers
When we think of postpartum depression, we usually picture a mother — tearful, exhausted, and overwhelmed. And while that’s an incredibly valid and common experience, there’s something often left out of the conversation:
Dads can get postpartum depression too.
At Nurture Geelong, we believe in supporting the whole family — not just the birthing parent. That means shining a light on the hidden emotional struggles of new fathers and non-birthing partners, and creating space for healing, connection, and community.
Because parenthood changes everyone — and no one should suffer in silence.
Yes, Postpartum Depression Affects Dads Too
Research shows that 1 in 10 new dads experience postpartum depression, with even more reporting symptoms of anxiety, stress, or emotional withdrawal. For fathers with partners who have PPD, that number rises even higher.
And yet, many dads:
Don’t know it’s something they can experience
Feel ashamed or confused by their emotional state
Believe they need to "be the strong one"
Put their own needs last while trying to support their partner or baby
But here’s the truth: you can be a devoted dad and still be struggling. There is no weakness in that — only humanity.
What Does Postnatal Depression in Dads Look Like?
It can look different to what we traditionally associate with depression. In fathers, it often shows up as:
Irritability or anger
Withdrawal from family or friends
Loss of interest in things they used to enjoy
Increased use of alcohol or other substances
Workaholism or avoidance behaviours
Persistent sadness, hopelessness, or numbness
Changes in appetite or sleep (not just from the baby)
Feelings of inadequacy, guilt, or failure as a father or partner
Sometimes it looks like burnout. Sometimes it looks like anxiety. Often, it’s masked as “just stress” — until it starts to feel unbearable.
Why It Happens
The transition to fatherhood is massive — emotionally, psychologically, and practically.
Some contributing factors can include:
Lack of sleep and loss of personal time
Pressure to provide, protect, and hold things together
Witnessing a traumatic birth or feeling helpless during labour
Changes in relationship dynamics and intimacy
Financial strain or work pressure
Personal or family history of mental health challenges
Feeling excluded or unsure how to bond with the baby
Many dads are never given the emotional tools or social permission to process what this transition brings. But that doesn’t mean they don’t need them.
You’re Not Alone — And You Deserve Support
There is no rule that says dads must stay silent or stoic. If you're struggling, it doesn't mean you're failing. It means you're human, navigating one of the most transformative — and often disorienting — times in your life.
At Nurture Geelong, we’re here for you too.
How We Support Dads at Nurture Geelong
We recognise that dads and partners need a safe place to talk, decompress, and feel seen. Our support is inclusive, evidence-based, and free of judgement.
Here’s what we offer:
👨👧 Perinatal Mental Health Counselling for Fathers
Confidential, practical, and tailored to your experience.
🤝 Couples Counselling and Postpartum Relationship Support
Because strong partnerships make stronger families.
📘 Resources and Referrals
We can connect you with dad-specific support networks, men’s mental health services, and practical parenting tools.
What You Can Do Right Now
If this blog post resonates with you, consider:
✅ Talking to someone you trust — a friend, GP, or counsellor
✅ Checking in with yourself regularly — mentally, emotionally, physically
✅ Letting go of the “perfect dad” image — your presence is enough
✅ Reaching out for support — earlier is better, and it’s never too late
Need Support?
📞 Book a counselling session at nurturegeelong.com.au
📚 Explore our recommended dad-friendly mental health resources
📱 Need immediate help? Contact:
PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia): 1300 726 306
Lifeline: 13 11 14
MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78